Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us. I understand. What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore … his sad, wistful, “I miss you so much” voice on the other end of the phone? It’s validating. It’s exciting. It’s irresistible. But resist you must.
My friends all say I should stop talking to him, but I think he misses me, and I like that. I miss him. I feel if I stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great I am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again.
A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves. If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he’s showing up at your new residence to do it in person … if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you. Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you.
Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.
Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company.
Cut him off. Let him miss you.
He doesn’t need to be reminded that you’re great.
There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.
The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The part part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing.
Don’t give him the chance to reject you again.
No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.
Being lonely … being alone … for many people … sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel crappy or doesn’t honor the person you are is worse.
Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.
You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time."
Christy Mack released the statement above on her Twitter today about the abuse she endured Friday by the hands of her boyfriend, MMA fighter, Jon Koppenhaver. She said this isn’t the first time it’s happened but it’s the never been this bad. He spent 1 year in jail in 2012 for assault at a night club. My heart and well wishes go out to Christy Mack. I wish her a quick recovery and I hope they find this asshole and serve him the justice he deserves. If a loved one abuses you mentally or physically, they most likely will not stop. Get out while you can. 1-800-799-SAFE or click Chat on the upper right hand side.
Lock this fucker up…
I have a great man beside me yet I keep paying attention to all these jerkoffs….when will I learn?